7 Things a Lack of Confidence Will Do To You
I’m going to let you in on a secret: I lack confidence. My lack of confidence has hurt my business, stopped my book sales from happening, and led to me not being present for you because I didn’t really think my presence mattered. My lack of confidence nearly destroyed my business and led to me being forced to move in with family.
Your Confidence Is Key to Your Success, Too
Fortunately for me, I know that I am not alone in my lack of confidence. It’s something that everyone who tries to do something great must face. You can honestly think that you’ve conquered that confidence issue and gotten it tamed, but you’ll soon find yourself facing a bigger, meaner version of that confidence problem when you try to take your writing or your book sales or your business to the next level. Here are 7 things a lack of confidence will do to you:
Keep You from Getting Started
When you’re trying to start a new project, if you don’t have your confidence well in hand, you’re going to find every excuse in the book to not start that new project. You’ll tell yourself you don’t have time, you’ll tell yourself you don’t know how to start, or you’ll tell yourself there’s no way you can get what you need to get started. You’ll quit before you even begin.
Leave You with a Trail of Unfinished Projects
Without confidence, you’ll end up with file after file of unfinished projects. You’ll start them, you’ll get partway through them, and you’ll abandon them because you get overwhelmed by the sheer scope of it and you start doubting your ability to do it. Or, you’ll meet frustration and discouragement and you’ll think it’s time to quit.
Lead You To Hiding Your Work
So you manage to finish your manifesto or you get done with that essay, but instead of letting other people see the work you’ve done, you hide it. You hide it out of fear of criticism or rejection. As long as it’s hidden you can pretend that it’s great. Once it’s out in the open, though, there’s a chance that you’ll meet uncomfortable realities.
Stop You from Speaking Up
If you do manage to finish your work, finish the editing, and put your book out there, your lack of confidence will stop you from telling people about it. You’ll subconsciously hide it under a pile of excuses so big that Mount Everest looks small in comparison.
Stop You from Showing Up
I mentioned the networking groups. If you lack confidence, you’ll hesitate to join those. If you do join, you’ll not have the confidence to speak up and you’ll end up getting overlooked which will lead you to feeling unwanted and unwelcome and you’ll stop showing up. But you can’t make progress on getting the book sales you want if you aren’t showing up.
Standing Up for Yourself
When you lack confidence, you allow yourself to be taken advantage of and used because you don’t see your worth. You get so eager for attention and so hungry for praise that you accept whatever comes your way out of desperation and fear that this is going to be the only thing to come along. As a result, you end up feeling even worse about yourself when the whole thing is said and done and the cycle repeats itself all over again.
Not Getting Paid What You’re Worth
For some of you, you aren’t getting paid at all. Others of us aren’t getting paid enough. It’s not the fault of the person who underpays us. It’s our fault for lacking the confidence to demand what we’re worth.
The Beginning of Our Quest for Confidence
This post is just the beginning of our quest for confidence. I hope you’ll join me each Monday as I discuss confidence and help you work on building yours.
Join 40 Day Writers Facebook Group
If you would like to start putting your work out there and developing the confidence you need, I encourage you to join the 40 Day Writers Facebook Group. It’s free, it’s friendly, and your work will not be shared outside the group. You can get the feedback and support you need to start developing your confidence just by showing up, sharing what you have, and engaging with the other writers there.